Is That Man A Red Flag?

If you have ever wondered what some of the red flags are for a man that you wouldn’t want to date, one who has been radicalized by the Manosphere, here is part one of the long list of red pill ideology that I am amassing for my upcoming book. I recommend blocking men who have any or all of the following red flags, especially any form of calling women females, saying “body count matters” or “what’s your body count”. I believe all men associated with such beliefs are going to be controlling or abusive. At the very least they show an extreme lack of intelligence if they believe propaganda telling them that women are walking around with the DNA of every man she has slept with inside her.

1. Body Count Matters

Any discussion about a woman’s number of sexual partners indicating her value or lack of value is probably the most common, and for these I recommend blocking a man as soon as they ask a question about this. These men will use objectifying terms to explain why a woman with many sexual partners is bad. Terms like ran through, used up, or for the streets are frequently used. They will compare women to a lock that can be opened by any key, a used car with too many miles, a used pair of shoes, or any number of other weird shit like a glass of water or plate of food (a half eaten pizza is one I saw recently) that people have been sticking their finger in, and would you still eat it?

I shouldn’t have to explain how shallow and problematic it is for women to be compared to food or other inanimate objects. Women are objectified by men and on a societal level every day in many ways. What happens when you become an object? You are no longer human in the eyes of the person or persons doing the objectifying. The problem with treating woman as objects is that a woman is a human being, a whole person with a past and a future, with people who love her, with thoughts and feelings, hopes and dreams. But to men like this, you are a thing to be used.

Watch for other negative language centered around sex as well. If they refer to the act of sex in violent terms like smashed or banged, or I would hit that. Also if they use made up porn scenarios like she must have had a train ran on her, or the whole basketball team has taken a turn. In their delusional male porn induced fantasies, these are the kinds of things happening to any and all women who have a high body count. These are not sex positive people, they are misogynistic and often insecure and abusive.

It needs to be said that you cannot be consumed or reduced by intimate contact with another human being. It speaks to the minds of these men that they think that sex with men is degrading, that it lowers a woman’s value while increasing theirs. I believe these same men think they are taking something from us when they have sex with us. It may be because they know their intentions are negative, that they have to resort to lies, manipulation, coercion, or other trickery to get what they want from us. That if we are willingly giving our bodies we must be stupid, bad, or just as evil in intention as them. Keep in mind that there is a whole subgroup of the Manosphere that resorts to manipulation tactics to try and get women to sleep with them.

2. Looking For A Submissive Or Traditional Woman

These are the kinds of men who hold right leaning or conservative beliefs. Several years ago in my research I found out there was something called The Manosphere To Alt Right Pipeline. This is where you will find the cautionary tales of incel killers such as Elliot Rodger. The views of the men in incels forums online used to be fringe beliefs, and some of them still are, but ideology such as removing no fault divorce, taking away women’s access to birth control and abortion, and repealing the 19^th amendment (taking away a woman’s right to vote) have all become ideology that is frighteningly mainstream and is pushed by religious leaders, popular Manosphere influencers, and Republican politicians alike.

The men looking for a submissive doormat wife believe that feminism ruined marriage, that women shouldn’t be able to leave a marriage, and that women are also incentivized by social programs like SNAP and access to alimony and child support to leave marriages that are perfectly fine. They also believe that a stay at home mom who has no income outside the home shouldn’t be able to access alimony, child support. or retirement funds in the event she leaves a marriage. See how this works? The wife slave works for a roof over her head and utilities and food as long as she stays in the marriage, if she decides to leave she is disposable and needs to Just Get A Job TM. As if women who have no work history and no degree can magically find a career and make more than minimum wage when they enter the workforce.

3. Women’s Bodies Hold the DNA of Every Man She Has Slept With, and Other Bullshit

If I sounds made up, it probably is. Always fact check anything you hear from podcast bros or Manosphere influencers, or men in general. Some of it is funny, some of it is outrageous, and all of it is designed to shame and degrade women. The weirdest example of a pseudo scientific belief held by Manosphere men is that women’s bodies are semen receptacles, and we’re walking around with the DNA of every man we’ve ever had sex with stored inside of us. They will tell you with a straight face that they can’t be sure if their child is really theirs, because the sperm of some man she had sex with five years ago could have fertilized her egg, or something like that. I believe they got this idea from research about microchimerism, and some pseudo intellectual read a paper or an article without understanding it and thought “yeah that seems right”. This really shows the failing of several things in our society, like literacy rates and not having quality sex ed programs in schools.

The Manosphere is full of parrots, repeating misinformation and disinformation to their following without knowing what any of it means.

Another example used is that women are more violent, because lesbians have the highest rate of domestic violence. The actual data says that more lesbians have experienced domestic violence in their lives, not that the violence was specifically caused by women. Other examples are pair bonding studies (done on birds and prairie voles) stating that the more sexual partners a woman has, the less likely she is to be able to pair bond, and studies about infidelity and number of sexual partners. When you read these studies, they are either not done on human women (like the pair bonding studies mentioned above) or the conclusion says there is no real statistically significant difference.

4. I’m A High Value Man

Nothing says High Value like a man with no money and no car, who lives in mommy’s basement. Some man somewhere on a podcast told him to retain his semen, take steroids, and be abusive to women, so he thinks he is a god among man. Many men tend to have an ego problem anyway without being bigged up by some uneducated jerk with a microphone, but watch out for anyone who says he is high value. If he doesn’t outright say the phrase “high value”, it will sound something like “I can have any woman I want” or “Any woman would be lucky to be with me”, both of which were said to me by the same washed up mid 40s strip club DJ once. Reader, I thought he was joking so I laughed in his face both times. He was serious.

5. What Do You Bring To The Table

Most women, being more accomplished and educated than many of the men we try to date these days, will list off their accomplishments like this: “I have two college degrees and I own my own house and car, and I have a career”. These men will tell you that all of that means nothing to them. It’s another way to devalue women and our accomplishments, and make us feel like we have to fight to prove ourselves to them. What they want to hear is “I am submissive, I let men lead, I cook and clean, and I am a virgin”. We know we bring all that other stuff to the table, the things that benefit men, but many of us don’t count those as accomplishments. These are mostly basic tasks that anyone should be able to do, and the virginity expectation from men who have been racking up their own body count is a huge red flag.

All of these things are trickery, designed to put women back in our place now that the Manosphere has gone mainstream and men seem to think that feminism has gone too far, which is another red flag. If equality is too far, that means we need feminism even more. Stay tuned for the next installment of ridiculous things that men say that let you know to block and delete them before they can suck you into their delusions.